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FIRE & ICE
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Question Saturday, December 26, 2009
F&I Here's the deal grown woman having a babe becuz she wants one did not inform the possible father until 6mths later then wants his support. He being ME did not want anymore children used protection n we knew it malfunctioned she knew wat she was up to cuz she was on nothing to protect herself other than my condom. I'm involved with someone else the whole time I hd a one nite stand with her why would she want to hv my child. This situation is crazy she expects me to be there when the babe is born okay I'm the father I will b but dnt I hv a right to draw the line. So I said no I cant pick her up wen she's released frm the hospital no I cant cm to the babe shower and yes I can pay child support with rights to see my child without her being around. Am I wrong in this .
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- Ice
Ooooook!!!!! Firstly, you was wrong to sling ya penis in another woman knowing you had a woman at home (but hopefully you know this).......Now moving right along, I cant see why she would possibly want o have your baby at all given this was the REAL and whole truth situation.....Now in my opinion NO you are not wrong to not want to attend the shower, or pick her up from the hospital the day she is released, however you paying child support is something that i hope you will do and continue to do as the child gets older no matter the conflicts that you and he childs mother will have....
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- Fire
Wow, this is a deep situation but let me first APPLAUD you for doing the right thing and stepping up where the child is concerned. I have always wondered what is the right thing to do in a situation like this because if a man doesn't want the child does the woman have the right to FORCE fatherhood on him? I don't think it's right personally, on one hand, yet on other, the child should have a right to be taken care of.
I think that you have every right to deal with the child and not the mother (relationship wise). It sounds to me that she was definitely trying to trap you for her own selfish reasons. But you said she was a one-night stand...WHY DO YOU MEN FIND IT SO NECESSARY TO CHEAT!!! This is karma baby!!
If she continues to be selfish I think that you should take her to court to get your rights and visitation legally established.
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