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Question   Wednesday, May 14, 2008

Hello, I am devastated. I just found evidence that my husband is having an affair or at least emotionally involved with two or more women. I am sick!! What is up with some men that they cannot remain true to one woman even after marriage. I know that I will not remain in this situation. There are no children or anything significant enough to make me stay with him. Not even love. I do however want the opportunity to catch him red handed in his sh*t. I will go along as normal as I can in the meantime. I am pissed but I'm too good a woman to settle for this and I can do better on my own. Hopefully I can keep a calm head in the meantime and not poison the bastard!!!
- Ice

Well although I dont condone violence I can understand how you feel at this particular moment as I was once there myself. I appreciate you using this tool as a venting solution and I wish you all the best in this situation. Bless
- Fire

While I am sorry that you have to experience this, I am glad that you are not like a lot of the dim-witted females who write in and bellyache about the betrayal and then ask,"Should I stay with him?" Please continue to be strong but most importantly, do not do anything stupid although it may feel good. His time will come!
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