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FIRE & ICE
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Question Monday, August 31, 2009
Dear Fire and Ice,
Im in a almost 7 year relationship with my live in fiance (im 30 years old),about a month ago i found some other girls numbers in his possesion, call it womens instinct, and confronted him about it because he always says hes faithful but i cant trust him from past experience with him,at first he denied it then admited to it and said that he wants to take our relationship to another level by getting another woman to live with us/sexually aswell. i dont mind that so much but why is it that some men can never commit to a marriage first but always want rhe woman to sacrifice herself for him, ie: i dont have friends or boyfriends on the side ever in our relationship, i believe in honesty all the way and want it in return, the only thing is, is he just using that as an excuse for his misdeeds? he tells me he doesnt have a phone so why take peoples #s if you cant call them in front of me? open to any advice or input into my dilema, thanks
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- Ice
Well I believe that men want that from women who they know will allow that behavior. Now, I am not one to judge but an arrangement like that takes a strong woman because eventually you will not be included in every sexual encounter.
And for your second comment about him not takin numbers cause he dont have a phone thats crazy because there are dozens of phones that surround us.
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- Fire
Ice hit it on the head...I can only assume that you would agree to this because you are bi or bicurious. I think you are playing a serious game of Russian Roulette. If he wants you to share, then most likely he is already sharing now...
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