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Question Friday, June 19, 2009

My girlfriends babys father just got out of prison, and she seems to be nervous suddenly is it something normal about that.

- Ice

It depends....It could be that the relationship they had was abusive. If your concerns are whether she is going to leave you to go back to him you should voice them. See where her mind is at, but be open-minded with her response.

- Fire

I don't think that you should take it the wrong way. It is the child's father and he will most likely make an appearance at some point...if they were involved before he went in, I think it's to be expected that she is going to be nervous. When people come out of jail, they tend to think that the world stopped when they went it, so he may have false expectations. Be supportive of her.

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